If You Think Your Husband or Wife is Cheating

Are you noticing behaviours that seem out of the ordinary or suspicious, or just a gut feeling that is causing you to feel stressed out and anxious?

• He always keeps his cell phone with him, even when he goes to the washroom.
• She is never home – she is always working late.

You really want to trust your spouse and you don’t want to believe they are cheating. But if they are having an affair you will feel like such a fool. You need to find the truth.

So what do you do? Well, if you are like most people you start to snoop, searching for evidence you can use to confront your spouse. You look at emails, text messages, phone records, receipts and more. You go through their pockets or purses when they are in the shower. Yet even if your searches turn up nothing, you still don’t feel satisfied because you have this nagging thought that your spouse is having an affair.

You go through a phase where you think you are crazy and it is just in your head. Ultimately you don’t want to be betrayed. But no matter what you do you cannot stop looking for clues and  you cannot stop thinking about it.

Let’s face it, this is a difficult topic to talk about. The idea that your spouse may be cheating is uncomfortable at best and humiliating at worst. Most people in this situation can’t even bear the thought of discussing this with friends or family, or especially the spouse, and generally suffer in silence.

You may fear the confrontation, and how other people will be hurt when the truth comes out. It will destroy your marriage, your children, your life. You wonder whether your spouse will just deny it anyways. Most people in your position say that the denial is as hard to manage as the affair itself.

At Family TLC in Barrie, we have helped many women and men in this situation. For example, it is best to not say anything until you have proof. Otherwise, you are just warning your spouse to hide their behaviour better.

Above all, this is a time to take good care of yourself. With these concerns going on, you can easily lose focus on your own well-being and begin to feel defeated, overwhelmed, depressed, angry and stressed. This can easily turn into weight gain, weight loss, excessive drinking, difficulty sleeping or more. It is crucial that you get support, hang on to your trust in yourself, and stay strong.

Questioning if your spouse is having an affair is painful and will only get worse until you deal with it. Get help to address this situation now!