The Emotional Side of Co-Parenting

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world. It does not come with a manual and your children depend on you to guide them through. You want to do what is best for them and make the right decisions.

Separation and divorce are common in today’s society. A separation affects everyone differently and at varying stages. Communication during and after the separation is key. Many people find it difficult to communicate because your emotions are so intense and you may be in denial about your new reality. You may feel sad, angry, let down, depressed and find it difficult to speak to or communicate with your ex-partner.

At Family TLC, we find it beneficial to develop a parenting plan that can work in conjunction with your separation agreement. By working with a parenting coach, you can help to minimize your emotional responses and focus on the best interest of your children. Children are also coping with the separation of their parents. Seeing their parents communicate in a healthy way without argument will help them get through the process.

Co-parenting can be difficult at times and it is challenging to not allow your feelings to get in the way. Keep your children’s needs and best interest at the top of your mind. The process can be complicated at first, but once you and your spouse can come to an agreement about custody, major decisions and parenting, the process should be much smoother. The more effectively you can communicate with your ex-spouse, the easier the transition will be for everyone.

It is important for you to receive the help you need to cope with your new reality and the aftermath of a separation. You will find yourself experiencing varying waves of emotion and that is normal. Take time to yourself and make sure you have supports around you who can help you on your bad days. When learning how to co-parent after divorce or separation, always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel and tomorrow is a new day.